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Tuesday, 25 Adar I, 5784
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Can I Remind My Parents to Pay?

What to do if your parents owe you money? N'shei Chabad Newsletter's Esther Etiquette column addresses this question in the new issue. Full Story

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Yisroel Shaul, 59, OBM

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GORGEOUS COVER!
June 7, 2015 7:14 am

the n’shei covers have been getting more and more beautiful recently! kol hakavod

And this is why
June 7, 2015 1:27 am

I don’t lend my parents money, or pay for something because they promised to pay me back. If they want to pay, they can show me the money – and give it to me – up front. I learned the hard way that neither of my parents pay me back – when I was a kid, a teen, etc. My father forgets until you remind him a few times. My mother insists that “we don’t count pennies with family” when you ask her to pay you back, after she promised to pay you back and convinced you to make the… Read more »

To #2
June 7, 2015 1:16 am

You cannot compare a parent’s child-raising expenses to when a child puts out money that he doesn’t have ONLY because the parent promised to pay him back.

To #8:
You are very sweet and tactful, but you gave the parents an option not to pay after they committed to doing so, leaving the kids with a mountain of debt that they cannot pay off. If the parents can’t pay, they shouldn’t have made the offer.

Excited!!!
June 5, 2015 1:26 pm

This issue looks like it’s gonna be fascinating im so excited to read it! I don’t exactly agree with Esther etiquette about sending your parents a receipt when they offer to pay for something.. They’re not your customer and you’re not collecting a debt you’re just politely reminding what they promised to their child..

cover text could be misunderstood
June 5, 2015 7:15 am

you need to be more careful that nothing in the Nshei Journal can be misconstrued- because all kinds of people read it. I remember when my husband shy’ichye sent his writing to the Rebbe, the Rebbe was careful to the nth degree that in no way could it be misinterpreted.. The title on the cover We remain Chassidim With A Question can be misconstrued in a nagative way. eg.t hat we Chas V’sholom question if the R.s words are still valid.etc. I know this would be clarified in the article. However how about those who just glance at the cover… Read more »

? identify ?
June 4, 2015 8:28 pm

who are the two men in the photos? one with the Rebbe and one with tefillin on

i disagree with you, #8
June 4, 2015 6:35 pm

i would never do something that would require me to say to my parents “i really, really wish i wouldn’t have to ask you”

i don’t have to ask. i can do without.

i went to this wedding (theoretically) BECAUSE my parents came to me saying “please make tickets for the whole family on us”

to go crawling and begging from one’s parents – for a luxury!? ugh.

Better idea
June 4, 2015 3:48 pm

I would be honest with my parents:

Dear Tatty and Mommy,

Thank you so much for offering to pay for our family to come to the wedding. It’s not something we could have or would have done without you!

I really, really wish I could pay for it myself and wouldn’t have to ask you, but our credit cards bills are due and we don’t have the money. Are you still able to help us with this?

authentic pictures of the rebbe
June 4, 2015 3:15 pm

the original of this picture (lag baomer 5717-1957) clearly shows that the shtender cover was BLUE. now all of the sudden it changed to RED!
photoshop is ruining the authenticity of pictures of our rebbe just to make them “look nice”. now you cant know the difference between an original and a “worked on” picture. who knows where this is leading to…

Hashem
June 4, 2015 2:13 pm

We owe our very own existence to him yet we demand of him all the time. A healthy relationship with your parents is to ask respectively, especially if it slipped their mind. I don’t care how many diapers you changed, you don’t ask your child to lay-out money and then expect them to eat the bill.

We forever owe our parents
June 4, 2015 1:08 pm

B”H

If we calculate per hour sleepless nights, endless diapers change, things they bought us, care they provided and love they gave we would be forever in debt. Boruch Hashem our parents don’t write emails to us reminding who much we owe. 🙂

Rabbi Goldstein What a Ledgend!!
June 4, 2015 1:06 pm

A giant ahead of his times!! His Hiskashrus and Kesher to the Rebbe was indescribable. We miss you our beloved Rebbe and Rabbi Goldstein- Moshiach NOW!!!

#1 Photo?
June 4, 2015 12:19 pm

It looks like a beautiful painting. Who is the artist?

No such thing
June 4, 2015 11:31 am

You can never be owed money by your parents what if they were to collect from you?!

Cover photo
June 4, 2015 9:15 am

Great photo! Rabbi Yosef Goldstein (“Uncle Yossi”) entertaining the crowds in English at one of the early Lag B’omer parades, while the Rebbe looks on.

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