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Is Anti-Bullying Movement Jewish

Rishe Deitsch, senior editor of N'shei Chabad Newsletter, says she's most proud of her anti-bullying work in Chabad communities. Full Story

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i learned from izzy kalman
December 6, 2016 10:02 pm

i attended his event last winter by The Beis Medrash Women’s Circle i watched his videos afterwards, and read two of his books and what i learned basically was DON’T ESCALATE THE HOSTILITIES when hostilities come at me (and they come at everyone occasionally, it can’t be avoided), instead of bristling and throwing hostilities back, so they escalate, i learned to not escalate it sounds simple but it’s not, it was a skill i had to learn but BOY OH BOY does it ever work it’s amazing what happens when you learn to de-escalate hostilities… miracles happen… in friendships, in… Read more »

Izzy Kalman responds to #2, 4, 8 and 10
December 6, 2016 4:15 am

LA Morah: regarding addressing the “bully”; but who is the bully? It is not an objective diagnosis of a person. Is it someone identifiable by their horns and tail, they way bullies are often depicted in illustrations? A bully is whoever someone else says he is, but the person being accused of being a bully rarely sees himself that way. If you address a “bully” but he denies he is a bully and even claims he is the real victim, then how do you address the bully? Who is he? My approach does not only address “victims.” It addresses everyone,… Read more »

Anti bullying is not the most prevelant social phenomina
December 5, 2016 9:47 pm

Anti animal abuse is. It is by far, many more times, promoted and advocated then anti bullying is. The reason is that those who promote it, are in fact the most extreme and worst bullies, ever to exist. There are videos of 5 year old girls doing things like putting there feet softly up against large dogs, with comments demanding the torture and death of the kid for “abusing” the dog by “kicking it”. There are other videos of the same kind of fanatical bullies demanding similar torture and death, for people riding horses. There is no such thing as… Read more »

Thank You Rishe Deitsch
December 5, 2016 9:38 pm

Thank you to Rishe and the Nshei newsletter. You tackle difficult topics in a beautiful way.Thank you for bringing topics like bullying to the forefront so they can be worked on for the benefit of the next generation.

Yossel
December 5, 2016 7:26 pm

Crown Heights and Brooklyn are TOUGH neighborhoods. My first time visiting one of the local Boy’s Yeshivas, two boys were beating the stuffings out of each other in the hallways. This is NOT!! how Jewish children are supposed to act! Parents sometimes adopt the attitude of “My kid against your’s, survival of the fittest” THIS is Jewish??????

Totally agree w #4
December 5, 2016 2:49 pm

My thoughts exactly!!!

Ch mother
December 5, 2016 2:24 pm

What about in camps…. My son was bullied when they put him i a bunk that had boys from a different Yeshiva then his…. Now that the school year started we are feeling it… Hes just not the same boy anymore!

to the zero tolerance proponents
December 5, 2016 1:52 pm

since i have benefited from training by Izzy kalman, i can explain a little

zero tolerance sounds good on the face of it

but in reality, think about it, who is going to follow your child around his/her whole life making sure nobody bullies him/her? who is going to have “zero tolerance” for anyone who hurts his/her feelings?

nobody is going to. so it’s far, far better to teach your child now how to deal with insults, than to try to zap every insulter.

almost every child can be taught. i’ve seen it.

what what?
December 5, 2016 1:35 pm

TBMWC is having a second event with Izzy Kalman? i still recall the first. izzy role-played with Bassie Chaskind and they were hysterical!

Zero tolerance
December 5, 2016 12:43 pm

Zero tolerance sounds great in theory and workshops, but it doesn’t work in reality. I think we should give this a try

Rabbi K.
December 5, 2016 11:23 am

BSD, at the same time that you are working on anti-bullying techniques for children, why don’t you work on anti-bullying techniques for supposedly “normal”, sometimes even “prestigious” adults, where the stakes in real world life are tremendously greater !!!! A few years ago, I saw a fantastic video by the Chabad Rabbi, Shais Taub, who said that some adults give other adults a “tounge lashing”. Also, a Lubavitcher Rov told me right out that a certain big supposedly prestigious Rabbi was nothing more than a bully and that that was how he got into his position and did things in… Read more »

Cold winter
December 5, 2016 11:10 am

While this may work our schools should have a zero tolerance for bullying especially in the usa under trump

LA Morah
December 5, 2016 10:49 am

Empowering the victim of bullying is wonderful and much needed however the bully must also be addressed and not ignored. One,he/she needs to know these sort of actions have consequences,two,the bully has his/her own issues that must be dealt with.

TBM Women's Circle says
December 5, 2016 9:04 am

Stay tuned for details on our upcoming event with Izzy Kalman in Crown Heights.

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