Jun 13, 2013
Standing Up (or Sitting) For Others

OP-ED: The man who remained seated for the reading of the Rebbe's letter and the organization that fights for the abused.

By Mendy Pellin

How would you react to someone who sat down as soon as they started reading the Rebbe's letter under the chuppah? When I saw it happen, I was overwhelmed with deep admiration and respect for the man; everyone else's reaction was quite to the contrary.

In 2005, I was injured in an accident and, as a result, was confined to a wheelchair for several months. Steps and narrow doorways became my enemies. Not wanting to be seen in my "old man's chair," I avoided it like the plague. I pushed myself around (inconspicuously) on an office chair when possible and generally stayed away from public events.

However, my physical impairment was not going to stop me from celebrating the wedding of my good friend, Rabbi Chaim Danzinger. Arriving early at the chuppah in Pittsburgh, I transferred from the "nebach chair" to a folding chair in the front row and asked a friend to hide evidence of the other chair.

The seats quickly filled up. Sitting next to me was an old acquaintance from the Ukraine, Rabbi Akiva Romanovsky. We didn't speak each other's language, but we caught up with hand gestures and a broken Yiddish that neither of us understood.

As the proceedings got underway, my heart skipped a beat when I heard the MC ask everyone to please rise for the reading of the Rebbe's letter. I couldn't. I watched everyone stand up as I helplessly sat in the front row.

After the first few words were uttered, someone from behind gave me the classic, "Nu-uh! Stand up!"

Without hesitation Reb Akiva, realizing what was happening, sat down next to me. He didn't want me to be the only one to get dirty looks. The two of us just sat there in the front row shrugging off all the "nu-uhs" from the crowd.

It was one of the nicest things anyone has ever done for me. A man that lives for the Lubavitcher Rebbe day and night sat down during the Rebbe's letter so a fellow Jew wouldn't feel alone in a helpless situation. That gesture was a sign of true leadership and heroism.

This story came to mind when I was thinking how to describe Meyer Seewald, founder of Jewish Community Watch, the organization seeking awareness and justice for young victims of abuse in the frum community.

Here is a man that is getting countless "nu-uh's" from folks who either don't understand or are uncomfortable with what he's doing. But he doesn't care. He does what he knows to be the right thing. He sits quietly next to all the victims of abuse and shrugs it all off. He is a hero to them.

Where many of our community leaders have shied away from addressing this issue head-on, Meyer has devoted himself to doing the dirty work that needs to be done to keep our children safe.

I don't usually write these kinds of letters. This may be a first. The reason why I felt the urge to write this letter of support is because I was against this organization after someone I knew and respected was posted on the wall of shame. But instead of writing nasty comments, I decided to call the dude behind the site to voice my frustration. How could he just ruin a family based on a young man's claim?

Turns out I was just misinformed about how this organization works.

For a name to be added on the "Wall of Shame," they (yes, 'they'. This is not a one man show) require a several victims coming forward and/or concrete evidence to fit their parameters. There is a board that reviews all the information and only folks that get a unanimous vote are posted (I hope they make the names of the board public soon).

You may disagree with their methods, and that's fine. But don't let your criticism be an excuse for inaction. One thing that we can all agree on is that the issue of abuse in our community must be addressed. Continued silence is not an option.

I write this as a father who wants a safe world for his kids. A world where parents, schools and camps aren't in a dangerous state of denial. I write this as a person who is fed up with reading negativity toward someone who has had the courage to stand up (or sit down) and make a difference in cleaning up our community. There will be less kids abused this summer because of him.

As with my friend Reb Akiva, I'm confident that the Rebbe is proud of the work Meyer Seewald and the Jewish Community Watch is doing. My hope is with this information you won't be the guy in the crowd that says "nu-uh."


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1
Don't See the Comparison
The story with Rabbi Romanovsky is very nice, but I don't see the comparison with the other guy. While he is doing something that the community needs, and that should be commended, he does it in a very unprofessional and immature way.

And don't tell me that there is nobody else doing anything about it, first, because that isn't true, but more importantly, just because there is evil out there that doesn't give anybody a right to hurt innocent people with the excuse they are attempting to fight evil.
(6/14/2013 12:56:05 AM)
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thanks for standing up
Long OVEDUE but its NEVER TO LATE FOR A CHASSID!
(6/14/2013 1:02:51 AM)
3
Very well said...
I'm touched by the sensitivity of this Reb Akiva (his name suits him).
Meyer Seewald is a hero and may he have the strength to continue this unbelievable work to keep our children safe in Shul, school, camp or in their friends and relative's houses...
Thank you Mendy for speaking up!
(6/14/2013 1:03:25 AM)
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I just want to be the first one to comment
I'll bet there will be plenty more.
(6/14/2013 1:06:35 AM)
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Mr.Misinformed
You are still misinformed. Easy platform to express hate
against respectable people. Does not solve problems but harms innocent people. Soon his name will be honored
same way.Please dont support that maniac.
(6/14/2013 1:18:07 AM)
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chagas style has permeated Chabad
Modern Lubavitch loves to tug at our heart strings, with little toichen and even less logic and examination.
(6/14/2013 1:21:26 AM)
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Chaim
Mendy,

if what you say is true, I'm all for it.

The only person that anyone has heard of on the board is Meyer Seewald. If he wants the respect you claim he deserves, and maybe rightfully so, he needs to be transparent and let the community know he his board is. Who are the Rabbi's and Mashpiam he claims to consult with. This is a sensitive issue and he would gain tremendous clout by presenting a respectable board of rabbonim and professionals.

Another concern I have is that I have heard one to many stories of the rough and tough tactics he uses. I don't know if they are true or not, but they deserve to be looked into. If they are true, he should be shut down.

Every small business reaches a point when it needs to restructure itself if it is going to continue growing. The "mom and pop" way of doing things don't work for a real company. I think CHW has reached that point.

(6/14/2013 1:33:24 AM)
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great article
when speaking to people about jcw, im shocked how many people (all ages) are against them,
people should be thanking the seewalds for doing this incredible service, and literally saving lives.
(6/14/2013 1:44:35 AM)
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Mom of abused son
Well said mendy! Thank you!
(6/14/2013 2:06:35 AM)
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Confused
We in Lubavitch realize that all Jews don't "stand up" for HaShem either, yet we run over with a smile to greet them.The Rebbe taught us not to judge other Jews Avodas HaShem so how can standing up or not be judged as "bad" by us?
Haven't we learned by now that a mean scowling punim will only push off another Yid, but a loving smile will bring him home?
(6/14/2013 3:01:52 AM)
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Mendy
Can't a person do tshuvah? Not according to the Seewalds, I think that he has a personal agenda and I don't Trust his methods...not everyone who is an abuser is a molestor, and not everyone agrees what abuse is... When I think Seewalds, I think trouble... I BH never experienced abuse, but I know some who did, and not only was their life destroyed, but they pulled everyone around them under... I have a feeling abuse happened to Seewalds and many who are not guilty will go down...too.. There is a personal agenda and I do not believe everyone on their post is an abuser.
(6/14/2013 3:04:37 AM)
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I agree
I absolutely agree that something had to be done and someone is actually doing it, regardless of the feedback. I believe many incidents of abuse have been avoided and many lives saved bec. of this site.. If G-d forbid they ever would accidentally put up someone innocent, I would hope they'd fix it fast according to the reasonable wishes of the falsely accused.
I know this is a very sensitive subject for those whose relatives or friends are on it, but I think people have to stop judging families for the one member on it. That member is sick.
It's a difficult Golus, and if someone else comes up with a better idea, let them do it. It is painful to have to have a reason for this site, Again, if there is a positive way to stop the abusers, someone should implement it a.s.a.p.
(6/14/2013 4:07:51 AM)
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good idea- bad delivery-- destructive and wrong as it now stands
the idea of standing up against abuse is of course right. I had a child affected by a molester and was shocked at the cover up attitude of some rabbonim.
BUT, I personally know an innocent young man who was put up on CHW, his reputation smeared, and the case was eventually thrown out of court, the impressionable boy who made the accusation "wanted attention" and his parent was an unstable person. The young man still suffers repercussions of having his reputation publicly ruined. In America we presume innocence until proven guilty. This man is not guilty-- but many consider him as if he is. You cannot make such serious allegations unless done carefully, wisely, legally and with great sensitivity. This is not the way of CHW-- it must change.
(6/14/2013 7:03:29 AM)
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to all those against
how else should we tackle abuse??!! I'm sure Sewald is aware of the dangers of naming someone innocent . As a mother of 4 I'm grateful someone in the community has the guts to stand up for what right and protect our community! Thank u CHW , I feel much safer now!
(6/14/2013 7:06:11 AM)
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To Number 11, "can't a person do tshuva?"
Actually... no. When it comes to abuse it has been proven many times that these people are sick and they cannot be cured and they cannot stop abusing.
The only way to stop them is to let the public know about them so they can stay as far away from them as possible (and hopefully they will receive the proper treatment/punishment for their actions)
They will not stop of their own accord, that is for sure. Only when they are publicly outed for their despicable behavior will they be forced to stop.
(6/14/2013 7:11:12 AM)
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Feffer
If you criticize whatsoever anyone who is involved in this sort of thing, you become either an abuser, related/friend to an abuser, or "protecting abusers".

This directly ties into the concept (or in our case lack thereof), of innocent until proven guilty. Which of course can't apply to "abusers", as I (or any 24yo like MS) can freely put up a website, accuse whoever I'd like of "abuse", claim I have "proof", and have everyone believe me!

Mendy, so what "Meir told you". Who is he? What, do you expect him to say, "yeah Mendy, I'm just havin' fun..."?

No court of law necessary, of course no oversight of Rabbis is necessary (they're way outdated), just me and my laptop is all you need, and you'll believe everything I say. Innocent until proven guilty, don't you see?

So if I randomly choose to put someone you know on my website, and you say "wait a minute, is this true?", I now will place you on many list too, you must be an abuser. Because hey, forget the courts, the rabbis, the police, you were proven guilty by two guys with a laptop (of course, I'll tell everyone "I have a board of Rabbis and psychiatrists!"), and I have on my side the great hero Charles Hynes, you know, the guy who wants to throw a nice innocent Jewish boy in jail for protecting our community.

Mendy Pellin, is it really that easy to sell you bridges?
Do you really believe everything Meir tells you?
Ask the people who actually know or knew him in real life, find out his real agenda's.
Someone needs to shut that site down until all cases can be verified with independent authorities, and in the meantime just give Meir a lolly pop.
(6/14/2013 7:55:15 AM)
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brotherof accused
My brothers name was taken off the shame list after a year b/c no one besides a deranged individual came forward they never apologized and they messed up a lot of people.
So let's not laud a frantic vilde chaye for his vildkiet
(6/14/2013 8:09:00 AM)
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Beautifullly Written Article
Thank you for all your hard work on behalf of our children. May we all merit to raise healthy and happy children.
(6/14/2013 8:16:58 AM)
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Pellin misinformed
Pls do not associate the two stories!! One is about a holy yid the other is about somone looking do destroy lives! Before moshiach comes sheker will be chein and hevel will b yofi. Don't believe everything u c posted!!
(6/14/2013 9:03:52 AM)
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to 1
What innocent people are u referring to? Get out of the denial river, if not for u then for the children
(6/14/2013 9:47:30 AM)
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to 11
Anyone who touches a child or teenager in a personally private place has committed an act of molestation, even if this is a mere touch. (Unless its JUST medical )Anyone who displays inappropriate "love" towards a child or teenager, through either speech or action has committed a crime of molestation. A molestor is an abuser. Our sages have written that anyone who "plays" this way should get the death penalty. This is our torah and this is serious stuff. As jews teshuva and life is always accessible to us, and there must always be a way to fix something no matter the damage, but first there must be clear recognizing of what the wrong is, it can't be done with denial which by nature many people are dangerously treading on.
(6/14/2013 9:57:13 AM)
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Heads Up
CHW doesn't actually care what the world thinks. Meir Seewald and his team (yes, I know for a fact that there are other people working with him) take CHW as their avodah for Klal Yisroel and will not engage in the back and forth of this until they have eradicated every single child abuser on the planet. It would be lovely if the people involved would put their names and criteria out, but they won't and they won't stop. Seriously, they honestly don't give two hoots if no one in the world trusts them. They are doing their job because that is what they see as the right thing to do.
(6/14/2013 10:05:00 AM)
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Chaim
on the wall of shame there are people who have neither been convicted in a court of law or charged by the Police, why are they still there?.
(6/14/2013 10:15:38 AM)
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to #19
Seconded
(6/14/2013 10:41:15 AM)
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To Chaim #23
The answer is simple. There isn't any oversight & Seewalds don't care or want anyone making them be responsible. Their intentions are good but their methods are wrong. If they only accused people who were charged with a crime it would be OK but they post names based on any report or suspicion, even a grudge complaint. It's very dangerous, no one is safe.
(6/14/2013 11:14:55 AM)
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wall of apology
they should write apology's on their website for people who were wrongly accused and posted, (unfortunately there are quite a few) like Daniel Granoveter, who was accused because of a someones personal agenda and then removed when they found out, but no one ever apologized or tried correcting the damage.
(6/14/2013 11:18:05 AM)
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As a victim
As a victim I don't agree with this method. I have been to court to help out other victims and have seen how methods such as these don't help a case. In addition, I once got involved and realized pretty quickly on in the game that the victim had a wild imagination and that the story never remained the same. How someone could hurt the rest of us in this kind of way by making up a story, I don't know but I would've never believed it had I not seen it with my own eyes.
What does help: what helps is empowering and educating children in a way that they have a zero tolerance policy towards abuse and know how to flee.
What does help: teaching children that we will love and accept them even if they tell us they were abused. We will support them in their recovery

What does help: having Rabbonim who are trained by law enforcement to understand what's real and what isn't and to know how to proceed.

what does help: When sanctioned by a trained Rov, going to the police and getting the case going.

What does help: upon release (oh yes most get released on probation or minimum sentencing) mandatory rehab for a few years (it's not foolproof but far better than prison as has been documented)

What does help: not ostracizing a family because they lucked out with one abuser. I am still friends with the rest of the family of my abuser. It's not their fault that their father/brother/husband/cousin is a nut. If we ostracize them, it's no wonder they will do everything possible to cover up.

(6/14/2013 12:04:20 PM)
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Have any of the Lubavitcher Rabonim given him the haskomo to post people online
If yes name the Rabonim.
Name the Vaad
Where is transparancy.
If you make only one mistake you have destroyd a whole Mishpocho manmy worlds.


(6/14/2013 12:54:06 PM)
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To 1, 5, 6, 7, 11, 13, 16,17, 19, 23, 25, 26
That pshyco maniac has to be STOPPED. Whatever people think , this is harming innocent people rather than solving problems. Its obvious from comments that people believe anything they read while the facts are not proven and in many cases, are false accusations. He should publicly apologize for the irresponsible harm he has cause others before he will shamed publicly.
!!!!
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(6/14/2013 1:01:28 PM)
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I'm shocked
It is truly disheartening to see some of the comments on this wall. Rabbi Blau, Rabbi Jacobson, DA Benny Forer, Ex-DA Zaki Tamir, Asher Lipner and now Mendy Pellin have all told you that the organization is properly run; that there is a board. How can you all disregard that and claim its lies and/or loshon horoh? Truly midos sodom dressed in chassidishe clothing. You should all be ashamed.
(6/14/2013 1:18:41 PM)
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Thank You!
well said!
(6/14/2013 1:24:58 PM)
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You people are crazy
Can anyone name a single Lubavitcher Rov who has ever assisted in preventing child abuse? Any Rov who has ever spoken up and given a shiur about this issue??? A RESOUNDING NO. So why do we keep giving them credit.
(6/14/2013 1:36:49 PM)
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side point
Is this "minhag" of standing up when reading the Rebbe's letter fairly new?
(6/14/2013 1:40:04 PM)
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abused children
I have personally witnessed close friends that were abused. Their lives and their entire family's lives have been absolutely destroyed. They and their families were extremely normal and functional. Why are we constantly worried about the families and reputations of the abusers??? Shouldn't we be more concerned about the victim who were innocent kinderlach that went to school/camp/shul??? Perhaps, CHW is not the right approach but have you seen one psak din or kol koire from one of the Rabbonim addressing the severity of this issue? Who will deter these predators? Until when are we going to cover up for them?
If they have a mental illness they belong in a mental institution instead of ruining children's lives
(6/14/2013 1:40:45 PM)
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Rabbi Yosef Blau, B.A., M.A.
Jewish Community WatchEndorsement Letters
Endorsement Letters
BSD
Dear Meyer,
It has been a year since I asked you to help a young woman who had been abused by her father. You knew the people involved and immediately responded. Since that time I have had many opportunities to observe the work of the Jewish Community Watch and have been consulted on halachic questions. The JCW is a major force in protecting vulnerable young people from the Crown Heights Community from abusers. It is highly responsible, working with rabbonim and the secular authorities.
Any support provided by the Crown Heights Jewish Community will enable the Jewish Community Watch to assist more young people in need and help make Crown Heights a model for Orthodox Jewish communities in protecting children from this crisis which exists in all societies,
Best wishes,
Rabbi Yosef Blau, B.A., M.A.
Senior Mashgiach Ruchani, Yeshiva University
(6/14/2013 1:43:54 PM)
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Asher Lipner, Ph.D.
To Whom It May Concern,
I am writing to endorse in the strongest possible way the work of Meyer Seewald and the Jewish Community Watch. I have worked together with them on several cases of child abuse, both current and past. The kind of work that they are pioneering takes emotional energy and maturity that I have found in Meyer and his partners. The passion and courage they have for protecting children is obvious, and needs no elaboration.
Working closely with them, I have witnessed also a deep sense of responsibility and integrity that allows them to deal with questions of law and ethics in an effective manner. Specifically, they are humble enough to know their limitations and to seek counsel from others including lawyer, psychologists, adult survivors, rabbis and other advocates for childrens safety, and have done so on a regular basis. They are consistently concerned with the sensitive feelings of victims of abuse and are constantly learning more about the best ways to communicate with them and to help them.In dealing with the perpetrators of abuse, Meyer and the JCW are thoughtful, careful and cautious before publicizing a danger to children. I have reviewed their policies with them on several occasions and have personally vouched for them in communicating to families of the offenders.
The life saving work of JCW is a real Kiddush Hashem. At a time when other communities, such as the Catholic Church, Penn State University and unfortunately, Bavonosaynu Harrabim, even some of our own Jewish communities continue to struggle with the moral sins of covering up for and protecting adults who are criminals and who endanger children, JCW is showing the world the true way a community must deal with the problematic people who are halachicly considered rodfim because they do terrible harm to innocent and vulnerable children.
I urge the entire community, led by the Rabbanim and Askanim, to cooperate with JCW fully and to support them in every way possible. This includes public acknowledgement and promotion of the good that they are doing, financial support, sharing resources and information, and any other assistance that they request.
Sincerely,
Asher Lipner, Ph.D.
Licensed Clinical Psychologist
(6/14/2013 1:44:18 PM)
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Joel Engelman
Meyer Seewald is one of the most dedicated and couragous people I have had the pleasure to work with. He and the website Jewish Community Watch have been at the forefront of bringing awareness about the issues of abuse in the Orthodox community, as well as have helped countless victims of abuse with advice and guidance. I work with him and the website on an ongoing basis to help victims of abuse and their families, and to bring awareness to the community. Meyer is honest and fair and seeks advice whenever necessary. He is one of Jewish childrens closest allies.
Joel Engelman
Joel has been involved in advocacy and community awareness about the issue of child abuse in the Orthodox Jewish community since 2006. He has co-founded advocacy organizations, and works tirelessly to support victims and their families
(6/14/2013 1:44:51 PM)
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Alexander S. Zalkin, Esq.
I am writing this letter in support of Mr. Meyer Seewald and JCW. I am an attorney who specializes in representing adult victims of childhood abuse against both their perpetrators, and the institutions that aided in their trauma. I have had the privilege to work with Mr. Seewald over the last year. In my experience, it is activists like Mr. Seewald that provide the impetus for institutional change, and ultimately, safer environments for our children. I will continue to support Mr. Seewald and JCW, and firmly believe that he is worthy of your support as well.

Best,
Alexander S. Zalkin, Esq.
The Zalkin Law Firm PC
(6/14/2013 1:45:12 PM)
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Charles J. Hynes
To Whom It May Concern:
The work of Meyer Seewald and the Jewish Community Watch regarding cases of child abuse is invaluable to the good of the community.
Mr. Seewalds dedication and integrity have been apparent from the time I first met him. Civic minded citizens and a District Attorneys office need to work together for the common good of a community. Our work prosecuting offenders and other criminals is always made stronger when community activists like Meyer Seewald and the Jewish Community Watch participate.

Sincerely
Charles J. Hynes
District Attorney Of Kings County
(6/14/2013 1:45:30 PM)
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Zaki Tamir
In my personal capacity as an individual and as a parent I can tell you that I appreciate the service that your site, Community Watch, provides. It is a thankless job, and many of the people that benefit from the information that you provide, would not support it publicly, for reasons that may be expected.
You are pioneers in your field and it is impressive to see the dedication invested by your staff into this type of public service. It is a difficult job to say the least. It is the type of job that everyone wants in existence but only very few would take the steps and make the sacrifices necessary to provide. It is especially true for the frum communities.
I had the opportunity to meet with the director of Community Watch regarding the process applied when deciding whether to post an individual on the site. I am pleased to say that it presented professionally and that the degree of careful caution exercised by your office (as expressed by your director) exceeded my expectations.
Thank you for your service and thank you for caring about the community. You may never know the extent of your influence and cant know the many incidents and abusive relationships you have prevented. But it is reassuring to see an organization fighting for what is right, fighting for justice. Integrity is something that cannot be bought and cannot be learned from a book, it is an expression realness and struggling to do the right thing when the right thing is not convenient.
May Hashem bless you and the community you serve, with success and may we merit to see the coming of Moshiach speedily in our days.
Very truly yours,
Zaki Tamir
(6/14/2013 1:45:52 PM)
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Benny Forer
March 20, 2013

Dear Jewish Community Watch,
I am writing this letter to express my sincere and heartfelt thanks for your tireless work in protecting our community. As an individual, parent, community member and a District Attorney, I appreciate all your efforts and praise your work.
Having handled, examined, reviewed and prosecuted thousands of cases in my career, I am thoroughly familiar with the requirements and standards necessary to implicate someone. I recognize the distinction between mere allegation and proof necessary to prove someones guilt.
After becoming aware of the internal standards utilized by JCW, I am abundantly content that you have thoroughly investigated your cases and have an impeccable review process before exposing any predators.[1] I am also aware that the Board of JCW has received allegations of abuse regarding nearly 200 as yet unnamed predators. That those assertions remain undisclosed because JCW is not yet satisfied that it has been able to substantiate those claims beyond question, is confirmation that the principles to which JCW is committed are honorable, upright and moral. I am satisfied that the investigative process at JCW is sweeping and rigorous before the Board is convinced to publicize the name of an abuser. It is such careful standards that both ensure an innocent person is not posted and that only a predator is.
Your organization fills a much needed service within our community. For far too many years, our so-called leaders covered-up abuse. I am personally familiar with many cases of Rabbis and Roshei Yeshivos not notifying theirs or other communities regarding a potential predator. Consequently, their actions have put many communities and their children at great risk because the predator was free to strike again.[2] It is due to these profound failures that an organization like yours is important and necessary.
In every State of the United States, our Federal Government and many other countries[3], there are offender registry laws. For example, the California Legislature, in enacting its registration laws, specifically provided reasons for its incorporation. They found that offenders pose a potentially high risk of committing further offenses and that it is a compelling and necessary public interest to inform the public regarding these people and the risks they pose. Furthermore, in balancing the predators right to privacy (and potential rehabilitation) vs protecting a vulnerable population, the latter is much more important.[4]
JCW fulfills this role in our society. Its admirable goals are to notify the public of predators and to protect the innocent. It also has a further, and much needed secondary purpose: due to various reasons, including rabbinical cover-ups and community stigmatization, victims are frightened/wary/anxious of coming forward. Victims often do not come forward because of perceived stigmatization of potential harm towards themselves and their family. They are worried that going forward to the police or to law-enforcement would publicly reveal who they are and remove their layer of anonymity.[5]
It is also common for victims of assault to wait some time before telling someone. When the person was assaulted as a child, he or she may wait years or decades. The reasons for this are numerous: victims may want to deny the fact that someone they trusted could do this to them; they may want to just put it behind them; they may believe the myth that they caused the assault by their own behavior; or they may fear how other people will react to the truth. As a result, the applicable Statute of Limitations has passed and going to the police will have no result at all.
JCW thus provides an outlet for a victim to reveal the truth about what happened, either to expose their harm, or to prevent their predator from effectuating this harm on others. They get to remain anonymous from the judgmental influences of our community, while achieving a much needed result. Moreover, in those situations where the victim courageously comes forward, but because of the statute of limitations he is prevented from prosecuting, the truth can still prevail regardless of the arcane laws preventing such prosecution.[6]
Our justice system imposes a legal duty on many (particularly those in leadership positions) to report harm, regardless of how strong or how weak the evidence is. Teacher, Rabbis or doctors all have legal obligations to notify all appropriate agencies if they suspects harm. In Halacha and as frum Jews, we have an even stronger obligation. The duty is on every individual to ensure that .
I applaud you for your efforts and I bless you that you may go from strength to strength and never waver in your commitment to this great cause. I also call on all Rabbonim and leaders from the various communities to A) join your organization, B) familiarize themselves with the issues, C) publically issue piski dinim relating to abuse and D) condemn any and all predators.
There are many in our community who are stationary and unaware or unwilling to act. This mentality is often based on misunderstood halachos such as mesirah, loshon horah, etc. and for too long we have allowed predators to roam freely amongst our children.[7] I therefore thank you for your bold and important step in protecting our communities.

Sincerely,
Benny Forer
(6/14/2013 1:46:31 PM)
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Unbelievable!!!
It seems that no matter how many people endorse this website, our community's willingness to protect those HARMING children does not waver. The abusers are murderers of children bodies, minds and souls. To try and stand up for them and put down this important site is shameful. I am shocked and appalled that people have issue with this website when so many important and knowledgeable individuals have endorsed it.
(6/14/2013 3:33:14 PM)
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Mendy, I was your roommate back in the good days.
What a shame you got involved with these people. While I strongly believe in what JCW wants to accomplish, I do know that [they] are bullies and school dropouts.

They were such bullies in our young days and they're bullies today (difference: it was pre-internet).
Let them open their books and disclose to the public who their "board" is.
(6/14/2013 3:35:53 PM)
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Dear readers of this article,
based on previous comments, my exposure to what they do, and people affected by it, the opinions of many others whom I've spoken to about this topic (including rabbis and teachers) i'd like to make the following observation:
what we seem to have here with this site, is a couple of ppl either personally affected, or emotionally angered bi this extremely terrible and sensitive issue of child molestation in our communities,
these people were distraught by what they perceived as inaction by the leaders of the communities, and decided to take matters into their own hands, establishing a website to combat this issue, stepping up to the plate, practicing the ethic "hishtadel lehiyois ish"
HOWEVER, it seems they may have gone to far, it seems they may have turned this into a personal crusade against anything and everything that smelled like abuse within a thousand mile radius - which is again technically a good thing had they gone about it in the proper way.
so you have here a tough call, are they doing the right thing?
mothers of 5 will say yes!
parents of victims will say yes!
some community leaders perhaps anxious to quell this embarrassing issue will scream yes! (and write a letter of endorsement)
while your average able minded, cool headed, analytic individual might say: welll they're doing something great, but is this the way?
meanwhile these ppl cacooned withen their safe box of public defense of innocent children, go on a rampage,
hurting innocent adults, prosecuting wrongfully without proper evidence, destroying names, lives, and families in the process.
drastic example:
islamic jihadists are coming from a very holy and sincere place, they firmly believe in a god and his prophet, they read his scriptures, abide by his laws and develop a intolerance towards the infidels who blatantly desecrate everything holy, mock them and their ways, and no one does a thing! all devout muslims agree that this should and must be stopped, but how and by whom?
one worthy group of individuals step forward, they prey, they bow, and then they march forth with fiery zeal to destroy all infidel nations, blowing up bombs, mass shootings, missiles, terrorism and whatnot to accomplish their holy mission.
drastic example - granted, but how does this tie in?
while there was a real problem, acknowledged by all,
a problem that had to be dealt with aggressively and forcefully,
there is still a difference between dealing with the issue, and getting lost in the whirlpool and spiraling out of control!
there are ways to do things, maybe no one is preforming those 'ways' maybe they are!
but one thing is certain, there is no justification for a group of people to banner themselves with so sensitive and smarting an issue such as this, thereby rallying automatically masses of approval, and using that power to irresponsibly destroy and wreak havoc,
there are ways of doing things, and yes, drastic times call for drastic measures, but remember,
the life you destroy, and the life the terrorists destroy,
the person you have hurt, and the person the molester has hurt -
nothing in the world can justify such an action.
good day,
chaim cohen.
(6/14/2013 4:33:47 PM)
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dear " Chaim Cohen" (#44)
Nice Try:)
(6/14/2013 5:16:26 PM)
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TO #44
Please provide any example of how JCW is ruining anyone. Daniel Granovetter was arrested and charged and therefore RIGHTFULLY reported on the site. Does anyone have any other example or do you all just engage in stupid hysterics?
(6/14/2013 5:57:22 PM)
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Innocent Untll Proven Guilty

Whatever people think, this in harming innocent respectable people rather than solving problems. Many people believe whatever they read while there is no proof and in many cases they are false accusations. That phsyco
maniac should publicly apologize for the irresponsible harm he has caused innocent respectable people before
he will be shamed publicly.....
(6/14/2013 5:58:24 PM)
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to all those against
Name a name on the wall of shame, that doesn't belong there.
(6/14/2013 6:38:08 PM)
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to all those against
Anyone who is/was 100% wrongfully accused, should take legal action against jcw.
(6/14/2013 6:42:17 PM)
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#47
Like who??? Who is an innocent respectable person that is listed on the site? Please tell us. If someone is innocent, shouldnt you shout his name from the mountaintops? Please tell us.
(6/14/2013 6:46:50 PM)
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To: 47,48,49
Why? So they should be double shamed? Are you that stupid?
Whoever believes those "haskomo's" is quite naive. I couldn't stop laughing reading those approbations. What a joke!
You gotta love the one from his acquired buddy Joe Hynes (hopefully to be voted out of office)!
(6/16/2013 12:27:52 AM)
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warning sign
If you knew the extent of harm that molestation has on a childs life (research it) you would kiss sewalds feet, for protecting your children. You wouldn't care if he is bully or not in his tactics there would be just one thing :SAVE THE CHILD. Imagine there was a dangerous pit near your house in close proximity to your youngsters and you didn't know about it. How thankful would you be to the person who put up a warning sign? How would you feel if someone knew about it and DIDNT tell you? If seewalds uses tatcis that are less then good then he should stop using those tactics, but continue putting up warning signs, so that a child's life- maybe just maybe your child- will be saved. As a Jew a person can always do teshuva and fix a wrong but there has to be an admiting to oneself that a wrong was done, and that this lifestyle is wrong. That the first step. Fact: there are molestors r"l in are midst who predate on children. Fact: many people who are parents either are ignorant or in denial. Which other org other then jcw has been warning the community of predators? If you think there so wrong and there are other ways, by all means do something.but who has. Again the effects of molestation is unfathomable, one should never know!
(6/16/2013 1:18:29 AM)
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#27
WELL SAID
(6/16/2013 2:54:17 AM)
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Lightning post
Good post, Mr. Pellin.

1. Why, when someone reads a Rebbe letter does he have to say - All rise? Let those who wish to rise, rise, and those who do not wish to, free to react as they wish?

2. Why, if someone chooses to sit when others stand is he judged rather than respected? Why do many insular sects have difficulty living the notion of agreeing to respectfully disagree?

3. If anyone is posted on Seewald's Hall of Shame, and they do not (successfully) sue for defamation, is that not indication of the strength of the claim? (I agree that the internet is a ripe tool for defamation and which hurting folks can abuse and with which can hurt innocent others, but unfortunately, when there's smoke in abuse matters, there's usually smothered fire).

4. I agree that Seewald's site should have its review "board" names publicized, but I wouldn't be envious of those folks - given the certain flak they will get as the result. To hold a community service position in general is a thankless job; in this community it's almost always suicidal.

5. I wonder about underlying reasons anyone who publicly rails against publicizing abusers would have. The moral, social and religious sin of abusing a child strip away one's right of (just) quiet remedial help.

6. Killing someone for killing someone else seems paradoxical and counter-productive, yet it is a biblical notion. At least some of the reasoning could be that corporal punishment it a deterrent of the crime. So too with child abuse - which can only exist in secrecy. Shine the light in all corners and there would be no dark corners in which to perpetrate the vile act. Let creeps know they will be outed and perhaps they'll curb their sick desires.

7. I so wish for the time when no one, ever, says to another "nu-uh" for matters between man and god.
(6/16/2013 3:44:46 PM)
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To 54
Re. "3. If anyone is posted on Seewald's Hall of Shame, and they do not (successfully) sue for defamation, is that not indication of the strength of the claim? (I agree that the internet is a ripe tool for defamation and which hurting folks can abuse and with which can hurt innocent others, but unfortunately, when there's smoke in abuse matters, there's usually smothered fire)."

I'm no lawyer, but my guess would be, that with all the "disclaimers" he has, you wouldn't be able to sue him, unfortunately; so he doesn't have to stand up to scrutiny.
(6/16/2013 11:16:39 PM)
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Take JCW to the Rabbonim...
This is why I believe in JCW and wish I had money to back up my mouth in helping them -----In CH (and in most Jewish community's) if you have an issue with someone - business or personal, you take that person to the Rabbonim or you take them to court. So far I have not heard of one case when someone took JCW/Seewald to the Rabbonim or to court. WHY NOT... if you (the accused molester) is innocent, fight them (your name is so messed up by going on JCW that it cant get worse) - Now that i explained my simple logic.. ,To Seewald and Co. thank you for all that you are doing to help out our incompetent community
(6/17/2013 12:26:53 AM)
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