May 23, 2013
What to Look for in Shidduchim

Rabbi Nachman Wilhelm of Online Smicha discusses what characteristics to look for when considering a shidduch.

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1
gelt
gelt helps
(5/23/2013 5:45:16 PM)
2
to #1
ONLY!!!!!!!
(5/23/2013 6:58:59 PM)
3
BH
mazel tov rabbi for your daughter!!
(5/23/2013 9:19:33 PM)
4
The Rebbe's list
1. Has fear of Heaven
2. Good Middois, Kind, compassion, Humble, Refined,
3. Once the couple meet there MUST be attractin of the heart (hamshichas halev)
4. Health: Emotional and Phisical

Not to check carefully for the above is reckless and dangerous
(5/23/2013 9:59:40 PM)
5
to #4
and those with some physical or emotional deficiencies are not entitled for shidduch?
(5/24/2013 9:56:19 AM)
6
abe montreal
whats about" yihus"
in the frume world if you don't have Yihus
they don't even look at you!!
(5/24/2013 7:25:21 PM)
7
to #5
good question
there are some conditions which do not interfere with ones ability to have and raise children

however there are other conditions (phisical and mental) which absolutely DO preclude one from being able to have a happy/healthy/functional family
and those who are so challenged need first to seek appropriate treatment to the point where an a (trained certified) expert renderes them capable enough not to ch"v ruin the next generation
(5/26/2013 2:16:32 AM)
8
the rebe doesnt consider YICHUS an essential!
provided that he/she is jewish and Has the IKARIM listed in post 4
(5/26/2013 2:17:47 AM)
9
yihus
if the boy or girl are otherwise solid, well adjusted kind and frum... their're personal merit helps them get the right shiduch and to stay clear of anyone who has the wrong values such as placing yichus first!
(5/26/2013 2:24:09 AM)
10
to #4 and #7
What about the ability to spell?
(5/28/2013 8:01:24 PM)
11
to # 10 4 and 7
No need to spell correctly with a bissele gelt
(5/29/2013 7:51:49 PM)
12
Geshmak
Thanks Rabbi for the insights. They are a big help.

Yaakov Mark
(5/30/2013 8:18:25 PM)
13
dys
I heard that the Rebbe Rashab said that a bachur should look for in a shidduch primarily 4 things and in this order:
1) yiras shomayim/tznius
2) good midos
3) seichel
4) meshichas halev/ physical attraction
(6/16/2013 8:04:08 AM)
14
40 days before being born...
people are so focused on yichus and treating bts and gerim as second class citizens that I would be surprised if anyone actually marries the person the bas kol declares for them...
(9/4/2014 9:36:22 AM)
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