Devora Krasnianski of the Adai Ad organization speaks to relationship coach Pearl Mattenson about 6 areas that need clarifying on a shidduch date.
By Devora Krasnianski
Adai Ad aims to address the questions that are on the minds of those young adults and parents involved in the Shiduch process. This short clip includes some tips and insights for having more productive conversations about Shiduchim (or really any conversations with your adult children).
There are many aspects of conversations around shiduchim; this particular topic was selected based on requests from some parents, bochurim and girls who we spoke with as we continue to develop programs for Adai Ad.
This is particularly relevant at this time of the year, when many children are coming home for Pesach and there is the opportunity for these conversations in person rather than on the phone or video conferencing.
Mrs. Pearl Mattenson CPCC, ORSCC, PCC, an advisor and consultant to the Adai Ad team, shares some important communication skills and mindsets for these types of discussions. These work well for communication in any relationship, no matter the stage of life.
This clip covers:
· Be honest about what you are really thinking. The parent’s state of mind impacts the conversation.
· How to start a conversation – even if there have been some parent-child issues in the past.
· Communicate what you’d like the conversation to be like –what you are hoping for in the conversation, and what you need from the conversation. And ask them what they are hoping for, and what they need from the conversation.
· Engage them with unconditional love.
· Don’t assume. Get genuinely curious and ask questions.
· Come into the conversation completely devoid of judgment – and maintain that throughout.
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