Feb 12, 2013
Nepal Shluchim's Adopted Child
Bim, left, at the Beis Chabad of Nepal
A Nepalese boy, rescued from the streets by Shluchim Chezki and Chani Lifshitz, has found a home with Chabad of Kathmandu.
Baila Olidort - Lubavitch.com
He’s the good looking, buoyant 12 year old Nepalese boy who greets visitors to Katmandu’s Chabad House with a huge smile: “Hi I’m Bim, the boy from Beit Chabad.” He happily offers unsolicited information, like candle-lighting time on Friday, or that Shabbos is not out until three stars are spotted in the sky.
Bim arrived at the Chabad House last year, naked but for a plastic bag that he used for some cover. One of hundreds of children exploited for profit on Kathmandu’s dangerous streets, he fixed his eyes on a Chabad rabbinical student, and asked for help. He wouldn’t leave go until the student brought him back to the Chabad House.
Rabbi Chezki and Chani Lifshitz, Chabad representatives here have become beloved figures in Kathmandu, a magnet for thousands of Israeli backpackers trekking the Himalayas.
(The Lifshitzs were the inspiration for a wildly popular Israeli TV series based on their day-to-day lives as Chabad Shluchim who set up a Chabad House in this third world backwater.)
After 13 years of living here, they have not become hardened to the poverty and the human suffering that are everywhere in this slum city. “My grandmother is a Holocaust survivor,” Chani says. “I learned from her not to ignore the pleading eyes of a child in need. Bim was not going to survive—that much was obvious,” she says.
Saving the Life of A Child Beggar
The boy screamed in pain as Chani and Chezki gently washed his lacerated, severely malnourished body. Scars and bruises—from the beatings by his traffickers—were raw. They brought a doctor in to administer first aid. They cut his long, matted hair and uncovered a beautiful face. They fed him, clothed him and made him comfortable.
What made Bim know to ask for the Chabad House?
“He had heard of the Chabad House, the Jewish place where people find help,” Chani explained in a phone conversation with lubavitch.com.
Bim had no normal socialization. “He was not raised as normal children are, and he had to learn basic behaviors.” He also needed psychological therapy and professional help to wean him from a substance dependency (inhaling glue) that many of the street children cultivate in Kathmandu. Then his traffickers, unwilling to give Bim up as a source of income, began to harass and intimidate the Lifshitzs.
With five of their own children, and long days packed with the exigencies of young and restless Jews traveling dangerously in remote mountain ranges, were these Chabad representatives getting in deeper than they meant to?
Adopting a Nepalese child is not exactly what Chani and Chezki expected they’d be doing as Chabad Shluchim. “But we asked ourselves, 'what would the Rebbe advise us to do?'” Chani says, recalling those first days with Bim. “There’s no question he’d tell us to do whatever we can to save his life.”
Adopting Bim
Chezki and Chani paid Bim’s handlers for his release, and gave him a new life in the bosom of their family. The Lifshitz children surrounded him with warmth and acceptance, and he integrated quickly. “My children have been amazing, full of love and appreciation for Bim. They’ve learned so much from him—gratitude for the things in life they never had to think about before . . . like having parents.”
“Ima Chani” and “Abba Chezki” as Bim likes to call his adoptive parents, enrolled Bim in a private school where he is proving to be a fast learner and a high achiever. “Last year he did not know how to read or write. Now he’s reading and writing in three languages. He’s skipped two grades since he started formal schooling,” says Chani, kvelling like any good Jewish mother. “He’s incredibly bright.”
Bim is not Jewish, but that's not relevant, Chani says, and converting him is not on the agenda. “We did not adopt him to make him Jewish. We adopted him to save his life, to give him the opportunity to grow intelligently, with happiness and love.”
But Bim seems to have something else in mind. Precocious and very proud of his adoptive Jewish family, he tells visitors that he’ll be having a bar mitzvah next year just like his “older brother” did. He insists that his Jewish name is Binyamin. And he’s learning Hebrew.
The Passover Seder in Kathmandu—with around 2,000 guests—is one of the largest and most popular worldwide. Chezki and Chani invest weeks of preparation. Speaking from Israel where she is adding Passover provisions to a shipping container that will arrive in Kathmandu for Passover, Chani seems to multi-task skillfully. Back home, her husband is taking care of logistics at the Chabad House. Reservations for the legendary Seder are quickly filling up, and Bim and his siblings are pitching in as well.
Raising Awareness
Bim’s story made news and garnered enormous attention in Nepal. It has brought representatives of various agencies and organizations, including government and NGOs, and the media, to the Lifshitzs’ door.
“I hope this will raise awareness of the plight of Nepal’s street children,” Chani says. “Imagine if more children like Bim would be saved."
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Thank You for inspiring us to do as you have done and will continue to do.
This is the example of true Shluchim, always thinking how the Rebbe will react to every situation.
There's a lot of good happening out there and if you had a bad experience in life that is sad etc. BUT you don't have to bring up the drek at every breath of life.
Move on and may hashem help you.
There is a tremendous beauty in sacrificing so much to help people we have been taught are not "like us."
But when a Jewish family is "chosen" to help a young Nepalese boy, your response is "this really isn't our problem." Hashem brought the boy to the Chabad House, but he should be shipped off to "the goyim" right away because "this really isn't our problem."
The Lifshitzes have given this boy so many gifts- a loving family (which he most likely wouldn't have gotten from an NGO,) a stable home, an education... They, in return, have received countless blessings from Bim. And all of us have so much we can learn from them, if only that there is more to Chabad than feeding Israeli backpackers and handing out Shabbos candles. If this story isn't an example of being a light to the nations, and of unconditional love, then I don't know what is...
if he wants to then why not?
Hashem for sure sent him to them for a reason
In some of those stories those non Jewish children grew up to be in a position to help the Jews when in trouble.
Is this some modern day twisted view on Judaism that gives birth to this concept you seem to have that it's not our business to take care of a non Jewish child??
Where do you get that attitude from because it is certainly not from the Judaism that I know.
I know the family and I know stuff about them that make them even more special then any of you even realize.
In my opinion it is clear that Hashgocho protis brought this child to them. We don't know why but it seems this child was destined to be raised by Jews. Perhaps the future will reveal to us why perhaps not but everything happens for a reason. He came to them for a reason.
it is what it is. All my empathy!! just let's call it by its name
The idea that we have different roles to play in bringing Moshiach does not mean that each and every Gentile poses an imminent danger to any Jewish child they may encounter outside of a janitorial or waiter position.
I used "so called" for several reasons.
1. Not everyone uses "goy" as a neutral term such as "Gentile" or "a beautiful child who happened to not have been born to a Jewish mother."
2. No "goy" uses the word "goy" to define themselves or their specific culture. But because this is a discussion about Jews and people who happen to not to be Jewish, we need some sort of word to make a distinction between the two. I am choosing not to use the word goy (lower case) as the opposite of Jew (capitalized.)
3. There is a good chance that Bim will not always officially be a "goy," which would mean that he always had a Jewish soul. Obviously neither you nor I know the answer, but Hashem did bring him to the Lifshitzes' door and the boy really wants a bar mitzvah... So I think the jury is still out on this one.
this kid seems already to be helping Chabad by raising awareness of Chabad in napal which only good can come from that!
במקרה היתי בחור שליח אצל משפחת ליפשיץ הנפלאה לפני שנתיים וראיתי את חני דואגת בצורה חכמה לכל דבר ודבר . ממש חושבת על כל דבר שיתנהל כראוי גם כשמדובר בארץ כמו קטמנדו .. כך שאני במקומך היתי סומך על זה
Since there was no orthodox school in their city, they had to find a long term solution. This happened in the form of a lubavitcher yungerman from Buenos aires who had no kids of his own, The kids were transfered to him and his wife, who with much dedication and love, bring them up as their own. They attend the lubavitch cheder in buenos aires.
#43, your comment actually had me tearing up. You, the Lifshitzes, and those like you are truly living to be a light not only unto the nations, but to Jews as well, and it will be people like you who deserve credit for the world becoming a place fit for Hashem to dwell.
The rest of you are a painful reminder of just how far we are from bringing Moshiach.
what u said was hurtful and disgusting.
i myself grew up in foster care. it was a terribel expirence and i dont want to wish it on anybody. what u said about them giving him to the goyim is revolting.
first of all, these goyim didnt offer much help till now, did they? second of alll,its thire business, theyre religious eminsarries and im sure they know what theyre doing. third of all and most importently, u can obilously see how hes a definate part of them family , to pull him away would be beyond cruel. also, who are u, to sit there and pass judgement on a coupel who u dont know?
these ppl, are doing amazing acts for religioun and humanity. i think this is a beutiful story, and in stead of appreciateing it, u dare to critisize? if u have nothing nice to say, dont say anything. and also, i wish i would be taken in with such a family, so caring, so full of love.....