Dec 19, 2012
Pre-Dating Course to Launch
With the shidduch process ever complex, a new pre-dating course for bochurim and girls will begin in the next few weeks.
Adai Ad
Every day, more and more young Chabad adults are getting involved in Shidduchim, yet it seems like it's only getting harder. Years ago, Shidduchim was simpler. The whole world was less complicated, less nuanced, and shidduchim seemed to go smoother than they do these days.
With all that is going on in the world around us these days, today, more than ever before, many young people are concerned that their marriages should be successful. They are seeking to take a proactive and responsible approach to their marriages. They are looking to learn about all it takes to have a successful marriage – from the dating stage when the relationship begins, and then through the rest of their lives.
The first of its kind, 'First Points' is a pre-dating course offered by the Adai Ad Institute offered for young bochurim post-shlichus and girls post-seminary, separately.
The program provides tools and perspectives that will strengthen their marriages. It also serves as a helpful tool to navigate the shidduchim process.
The Institute was co-founded by Moshe and Faigie Rubashkin and Devora Krasnianski to strengthen marriages and ease the Shidduchim process.
The very name of the program, Adai Ad, expresses the vision: from the outset, marriages should be built to last forever and ever. Beginning with its signature 'First Points' course, the Adai Ad Institute hopes to grow and offer other Shidduchim and marriage related services.
This Motzoei Shabbos, December 22 at 7:30 PM, will be a 'First Points' Open Workshop for bochurim at the Besht Center, 510 Empire Blvd. in Crown Heights.
Select points and tools from the course will presented and presenters will answer any questions related to the program. This event is at no cost and is not a commitment to join the course. Please RSVP at info@adaiad.org.
A similar program for young women will take place in the next few weeks, email info@adaiad.org for more information. Read more about the course here.
The ‘First Points’ course is loaded with important information including the stages in a relationship, especially important in dating. It also includes practical dating guidance including a comprehensive resource entitled 'possible topics of conversation', how to ask productive questions and how and what to share about oneself. 'First Points' also covers 'what to know before committing to marriage'.
Participants also learn new perspectives and mindsets about successful marriage, including communication, appreciation, expectations, being proactive for your marriage.
The course also provides a series of series of exercises through which participants can become more aware of themselves (and what they can still work on), and as a result become clearer on what they need in a spouse.
Presented in 8 sessions, the FIRST POINTS course is structured and organized to address many important aspects of preparing for successful marriage. Small groups, in a round table format, make for a comfortable and sensitive environment. Because participants are assured of confidentiality, they feel comfortable talking about these issues.
Created through countless conversations with young Lubavitchers, parents, mashpi'im, mashpios, and professionals, the course was built with real hard data, real stories, and real experiences.
Visit our website to see more: www.adaiad.org
Who is giving the presentations? I'd love Shea Hecht or Manis Friedman to be involved.
ITS THE DUE DILIGENCE THAT THE PARENTS DO FOR THEIR SON OR DAUGHTER.
YOU CAN GET A 20 MIL BANK LOAN WITH LESS DUE DILIGENCE
had something like this when my children were dating. I feel
it is very important to have chassidishe mashpiim and mechachos involved and encouraging our bochurim and girls to attend
thank you!!
anyway to make it available to us?
Ask Hashem for Guidance
You cant get engaged today without HUGE Siyata Dishmaya!
I think even seasoned daters can benefit from these classes and it will open new perspectives for them, this is an amazing well thought out course that includes lots of info for dating and marriage al pi Torah
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We learn best from your comments and suggestions, and thus we welcome them.
Response to some of the comments posted:
Long Distance Learning – That is in the plans. If you are interested in helping us set this up, we may get this aspect started even sooner. Please email us at info@adaiad.org
Applicable to all stages of dating – The material is definitely relevant to anyone interested in gaining tools and mindsets for a strong marriage, no matter the dating experience. This particular course is designed for bochurim of the ages 21-25. We will, IYH, plan programming for other age ranges and experiences. Look out for these courses in the future.
Private groups – You can get together your own group of friends and we can provide the course for your group. Please email us at info@adaiad.org
Embarrassed to join in person - We understand the sensitivity that some people may feel, and have tried to design the program to maintain privacy. The classes are held in small groups, in a private setting. More importantly, the course is designed so that no one has to share anything personal. At the same time, there is much to be gained from a small group setting, including learning from each other’s questions, being able to review the new concepts with others, and meeting the presenters and Adai Ad staff in person.
If you have any other questions, please email us at info@adaiad.org
2. Additional course topics on household economics. Setting up a budget, balancing a checkbook, securing a lease, how to find a job
3. Additional topics on special circumstances: dating after divorce; dating when older;