By COLlive staff
South Florida recently welcomed 22 shluchim and shluchos for an all-expense paid retreat courtesy of Merkos Suite 302’s Yaldei Shluchei HaRebbe, an organization dedicated to providing for the needs of shluchim with children with special needs.
The goal of the three-day retreat, held at the Chabad of Boynton Beach, FL, was to form a community amongst the participating shluchim and pamper them so that they would return to their families and communities with renewed energy and enthusiasm.
As shlucha Rivkah Caroline from Key Biscayne, Fl explained, “The retreat gives parents a well-earned chance to laugh, cry, share resources, and be a support to one another that otherwise is missing in our hectic lives.”
The retreat was an outstanding success as the shluchim left uplifted and strengthened. Rabbi and Mrs. Sholom Ciment graciously opened their Chabad House to host the event while caterer Moshe Stander wowed the shluchim with his gourmet cuisine and attention to detail.
Some of the highlights of the retreat were the sunset cruise, massage therapy for the shluchos, and recreational group building workshops for the shluchim. While the event was certainly successful b’gashmius, it was the emotional support from their colleagues and event organizers that the shluchim appreciated most.
The intention of the retreat, as Yaldei director Gershon Sabol announced during the welcome dinner, is to have the shluchim form a community on their own where they can share resources and support one another as parents raising children with special needs on shlichus.
So how do shluchim get through their hectic day when not retreating at beautiful South Florida resorts? In his poignant presentation, Rabbi Shlomo Menkes from Simcha Monica, CA spoke about the need for bitachon and emuna. He stressed the importance of strengthening the entire family to ensure that they stick together.
Rabbi Mendel Lipskier from Sherman Oaks, CA humorously shared his story of raising a child with special needs and offered chinuch tips.
Yaldei’s directors and administrators took time to speak with each couple during the retreat, offering advice, counseling, and resources.
The retreat also included separate support groups for men and women, providing a forum for the shluchim to share stories and struggles, as well as gain chizuk from one another.
The event culminated in a spontaneous farbrengen, leaving the shluchim uplifted and energized. As shlucha Devorah Leah Dubov of Orlando, FL notes, “My husband and I have not only enjoyed what seemed like a mini-vacation but also gained incredible insights and ideas on what to do in all kinds of situations concerning our special child.”
Yaldei Shluchei HaRebbe was founded by yungeleit, shluchim, and businessmen to provide assistance to shluchim, ranging from helping with insurance co-pays and therapy programs to providing sibling support programs, family support groups, and parent respite opportunities.
Yaldei also offers shluchim referrals to competent halachic authorities and clinicians for counseling, as well as reimbursement funds for medical needs not covered by insurance.
Yaldei administrator and coordinator Sholly Weiser explains his personal commitment to the organization: “Growing up with a brother with Down syndrome gives me a bit of an understanding as to the challenges that come with raising a child with special needs. Knowing that for my parents 25 years ago there was no one out there helping them, I decided to change that in a major way. One of the ways is by creating these retreats.”
The zechus of a life on shlichus is not without its well-known struggles. The challenge of raising a child with special needs is particularly felt on shlichus, where Jewish resources are few and far between.
“The support shluchim receive from Yaldei is invaluable,” explains Rabbi Moshe Kotlarsky, vice chairman of Merkos L’Inyonei Chinuch.
“Events like this retreat offer shluchim faced with the unique circumstance of raising a child with special needs the koach they need to continue carrying out the Rebbe’s mission in their corners of the world. The importance of this organization and its far-reaching impact should not be overlooked.”
It is due to the continued generous support from Yaldei’s sponsors that these programs can take place.
For more info or to donate to Yaldei, click here
i love this program i supported it. and Bli Neder i will continue to support it in the future. Thank You for arranging it
I am the parent of such a child- he is classified with multiple special needs but you wouldn’t know from a short conversation with them and we have a hard time opening up about his real issues except to professionals and family. It took us a while to contact Yaldei, but we do gain much from Yaldei. They keep everyone anonymous (in email forum -so the emails are posted as from yaldei as opposed to from a parent) and they help us out financially and otherwise with some of the expensive therapies etc necessary. THANK YOU!!!!
Gershon Sabol, dovid leib and Sholly Weiser
you are great!!!!!!!
Gershon Sabol is amazing.
Well written! Really enjoyed the article
dovid leib shur, amazing work!
rabbi Gershon Sabol is a gem
What kind of stigma ?? Or you child is special needs or he is not !!! If the parents are to pround and don’t want to speak up and find help, the only person that is missing out is the child !!
Keep up your amazing work!
This is an amazing program and should be financially supported by every Chabad chossid!
Helping a Shlich who has this types of challenges while the shliach continues to dedicate his and her life to the Rebbe deserves all our support!
Here is a Yungerman to be proud of ! A Golden heart , A Chassidishe beindel that really cares for the needs of Shluchim and their children- Shluchim across the world know they can call him as I have done many times and he has emotionally and financially supported and allowed these families to breathe again –I cant imagine a Tzeadaka more impactful and needed One Note- : there are many Shluchim who have children that aren’t “fully special needs” yet have conditions that need attention or they don’t want to identify with this crowd to avoid stigma or their… Read more »
DL keep it up…..
wir sind soooooo stolz!!!!
what an incredible program