In the next piece on “responsibility” Rabbi Kaplan will discuss some of the basics of setting rules: they must be clear and unambiguous, they must be consistent, and the consequences for breaking them must be clear and sure, among others.
It is also our responsibility to help our children understand that consequences are the direct result of their own actions; they are not the result of our frustrations but of their poor choice.
Well, I have been practicing what Rabbi Kaplan just said now for two years, my wife’s family are very soft and have a total different approach at that. I can tell that when my son with on vacation with my inlaws, he was such a hard kid all the sudden, and they all explained that he simply grew and that’s why he’s acting difficult and seems to be a big part of the day not happy weening. Well, he got back home to his daddy (me), and I refreshed the rules for him and in a matter of 1-2 weeks,… Read more »
Rabbi Kaplan, your message cuts across all walks of life. Amazing message. Keep up the good work.
Very impressed with this man’s ability to teach. Some of the most well-worth time spent listening to him. Nice job, Rabbi Kaplan. Keep up the excellent work!
it’s a little odd to give a comment without watching the video
(you REALLY don’t have 10 minute to watch it?)
any case Rabbi Kaplan explain it very well as the punishment
is the consequence
A Groiser yashir koiach … but have a question… at the end you say that we have to be role models etc… yes we have to be aidel say excuse me.. eat bakovidick… but if we have to be the exact role model for our kids then what happens when we dont do like we preach… Does that give the kid to say “well you ate with your mouth full so can I ???? etc… Does the kid think that they are now on the same level as the parents?…I am not a mechanich an official one anyways but I… Read more »
Thank you rabbi kaplan
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will there be more content like this from Rabbi Kaplan? can you expand this series?
Chani Levy
very clear, as a parent this is great, will there be more classes?
I didn’t watch the video but NEVER PUNISH! Educate, explain there are consequences. Punishing? Never