Modern Day Etiquette for the Frum World: My daughter's in-laws-to-be have given her a necklace that she does not like.
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My daughter has become a kallah, baruch Hashem.
Her in-laws-to-be have given her a necklace as an engagement present. My daughter does not like the necklace and claims she will not wear it. How do I tactfully mention this to her future mother-in-law and suggest that my daughter choose a necklace she likes?
A Mother Trying to Keep the Peace!
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Unfortunately, there is no way to tactfully tell the machateneste that your daughter doesn’t like her gift. However, you do have a few months left to make sure your daughter leaves your home a mentsch.
Rulenumber 124 of mentschlichkeit: When we receive a present, we say thank you. With a big smile. And wemake sure to wear that gift in front of the person(s) who gave it to us.
If your daughter wants a necklace that is her style, she may go out and buy one with her money. A gift is a representation of the affection of the giver, not the receiver.
Happy wedding planning!
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